Feeling a lack of motivation when it comes to your work life?
It may mean it’s time to reinvent yourself.
Maybe you need a career change, or maybe you need to just change HOW you’re doing your work. This is an interview with Mid Life Reinvention Expert, Dolly Garlo.
People are reinventing themselves at a rate never before seen in history
Did you know that the average person changes their role in life, the main focus of their day, at least 6 times? Maybe they try College, then job for 2 years, travel, job for another 3 years, stay home with kids, start a business, sell the business, start another business, travel some more, take time off, volunteer, start another business, and on it goes.
In short, people are reinventing themselves at a rate never before seen in history–and it is growing exponentially. As the world changes, the way you belong to the world keeps changing, too. Yet, few of us have had a role model for reinventing ourselves over and over again. Just a generation or two ago people tended to stay in the same job, career, home, their entire life. As a result, there exists a huge proportion of people perpetually in transition and entirely challenged about how to deal with it.
The 3 signs it’s time to reinvent your life are:
- You’re lacking a motivation to try new things and keep it fresh
- You don’t have the same drive to transform obstacles
- You’re daydreaming A LOT about doing other things besides work
Transitions are especially uncomfortable when you are between two worlds. You can’t go back to the old, or you’re so tired of the old but don’t have the guts to change or the clarity about where to go next. It’s like the winter of change when the old harvest is now gone and the new one needs time before it can manifest. That’s when it’s so important to get help, otherwise you can stay stuck like this for years. I’ll tell you how that happened to me in a moment.
That’s why I’m so excited to introduce you to Dolly Garlo who is talking about
“Beyond Career Success: Design an Inspired New Path for Life, Leadership & Legacy”
~ For professionals and leaders in their field who reach mid-career and beyond longing to reinvent themselves, to create something more fulfilling… and need help to create a clear plan to make it happen.
Let me give you a little personal intro about this topic, because I want you to get how important having this kind of help is. Most people reach a time in life where you feel like you need to rekindle your passion and interests, especially when it comes to how you focus your energies in daily life. And Dolly is amazing at helping you discover how to feel more inspired by your work and other involvements, use your experience and expertise to lead the way to a better world – and more fully live the life you’ve worked so hard to create. It’s very hard to do that by yourself. I was a case in point.
There are cycles in everyone’s life when it feels barren, like nothing is happening, like the great harvest you experienced before in your life will never happen again. During this state of mind a subterranean part of your psyche is replenishing itself and getting you ready for what’s next. This is the time in your cycle of growth when you need the most support and the time you’re least likely to ask for it.
Getting stuck in the “Winter of Change”
People often enter what I like to call “the winter of change” after they have achieved their goal. This state of mind can happen soon after you retire, even if you had been looking forward to your retirement for years. It can happen after your children leave home, even if you were looking forward to finally freeing up your energy from all those years of parenting. Or even more surprisingly after a great success in your life. If you had been working for years to achieve a certain level of career success and then you finally achieve it, there can be an odd sense of purposelessness when it’s over that can usher you into a winter of your creative cycle.
This happened for me about 16 years ago after I’d spent 5 years building my career as an inspirational speaker. I had achieved my dream and I was speaking at huge sales rallies across the continent. I was being flown around and put up in five-star hotels. After the last in a series of presentations had completed I remember going back to my hotel room and instead of feeling elated I felt strangely depressed. I felt as if whatever I was seeking all those years was now achieved and I had no new goals. And that the dream I had been chasing wasn’t giving me what I was actually looking for.
This was the beginning of two years of a barren winter in my life in which I no longer wanted to do this career, and didn’t have the motivation or interest to create anything new. It was a frightening time for me because I knew nothing about this natural time of barrenness that people experience cyclically in their lives. I was afraid that I would stay in this state forever. It took a toll on my health, my relationships and of course my income. I finally found someone like Dolly. I didn’t know Dolly back then, but the person I found helped me turn things around and I only wish I’d thought to find help earlier. I wouldn’t have had to spend 2 years. She could help me see things that I couldn’t see. They were in my blind spot. For example, I didn’t want to let go of the old identity of motivational speaker because it was familiar, I knew how to make it work and I was attached to the social approval I received for this kind of work, not to mention the income and sense of security that provided. Yet, trying to hold on was actually creating more problems in my life.
How to let go of your old identity so a new one can come forward
When I finally let go of this old identity and let myself go into the dark and the unknown through her help, I started to discover amazing things, parts of myself that wanted expression. The truth was that I didn’t need to change what I was doing but how I was doing it. Through this work with her, I got my mojo back, I got a new sense of clarity, and was able to reconstruct my life, my way of working, the people I worked with, the types of offerings, and the kind of lifestyle I needed in order to thrive. And the upside was that I ended up making more money, reaching more people, have more life balance, making a bigger difference. Before I was just a professional speaker. I was flying around the continent 50 times a year. I had no social life. It was hard on my marriage at the time. It was hard on my health. I had no hobbies. I was affecting people positively but you can only do so much by speaking to people for say, 1 hour.
After we did did the life redesign…and it did need to include my whole life, not just my career, I started offering my expertise is a greater variety of ways such as phone coaching, online learning programs, I wrote books, and I started a theatre troupe—that was a sideline hobby. That way I was home more often, which improved my relationship and health, and I was making a bigger difference for more people around the globe. I could be living in Hawaii and still having an income. I had a passive source of time, and not just a time for money type role in the world. I was getting back to something I loved which was comedy improvisation. I felt 10x better than when I was doing my old career. I really felt so much more alive. That’s why her company is called “Thrive”.
There is no real security in what is no longer meaningful for you
So, while it takes courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful for you. There is actually more security in taking an adventure into the new, because in movement there is life and vitality again.
So in the interview above we explore
- The biggest factors that can stop you from going for what you really want, or paralyze your progress (this is a bigger issue than your financial security)
- What do to when not if obstacles present themselves as you begin to move in a new direction
- The most important steps to take to make the move from where you are now to where you want to go – quickly, smoothly… and without regret
- And so much more…
This information is specifically for you if you’re:
- A professional such as a lawyer, doctor, nurse, accountant, etc.
- In a leadership role in your job
- An independent sales person in such areas as real estate, network marketing, financial planning, etc.
- In the experts industry – coach, consultant, speaker, trainer, infopreneur
Dolly Garlo is an RN, JD, Board Certified Business, and Leadership and Legacy Coach. She is a speaker, trainer, and consultant who works with masterful professionals and senior executives in business and government service. More information at http://dollygarlo.com/
DOLLY IS OFFERING A FREE ONLINE TRAINING: Are you a professional who has reached mid-career and are longing for something new, different… more fulfilling? Join Dolly for a Free Training happening this week. For more info and to register CLICK HERE.