Have you ever gotten to a point in life where it seems pointless and you ask yourself “What is my purpose in life?” There are lots of sources here on the internet telling you of how to answer that question; with lots of steps and methods. What makes mine different is that I’m going to give you a one-step method, yes one-step.
That one-step is – get out of your comfort zone bubble.
It’s that world where everything is all about you. Here are signs you might be stuck in a comfort zone bubble:
1. You are mainly choosing things that give you pleasure and avoiding feeling uncomfortable. For example, watching TV instead of exercising.
2. Avoiding meeting strangers. For example, not going to a networking event full of your potential peeps, just because you don’t know anyone there.
3. Self-centeredness. Getting upset when people don’t give you what you want, when you want it. For example, in a busy restaurant, or having road rage in traffic.
The world outside your bubble:
A less-self centered world awaits outside your bubble. Here are some of the perks of the outside life:
- The not-about-me feeling. When someone says/does something it’s not really about you. It’s all about the pain, confusion, frustration or desire that they have.
- Pleasure is a passing physical sensation. You’ll realize that pleasure is not the center of the universe, it’s just temporary. You’ll also realize that life is not about meeting your pleasures and shying away from discomfort.
- Compassion for others. Others make mistakes. They don’t always serve you the way you want, or drive in traffic the way you want. Usually, they are not doing it to annoy you, they are just in the middle of their own issues.
Life beyond the comfort zone bubble means you start to see others’ pain and suffering, you are igniting more empathy, being more heart-centered. This doesn’t mean you have to take on people’s suffering as your own; that’s called martyrdom, and doesn’t help anyone. You CAN offer them patience, compassion and help that feels right for you in the moment.
That approach can often mean you make their lives better, because you aren’t adding to their problems, but instead seeing how you can make a difference. It can often help you feel more purpose about your life.
Popping out your bubble:
Here are some tips to help you:
- See and admit the problem. First realize that you are inside your bubble. For example, when you feel anxious, angry, frustrated or impatient.
- Expand your mind and heart. Empathize with others’ feelings. Realize that they are also hurting. If ever they have treated you badly, realize that it’s not about you, it’s about their suffering.
- Wish others well. See their suffering and wish for it to end; genuinely wish for their happiness as much as you want your own happiness. Intention is very powerful.
- See how you can help. Be there for other people and see how you can make their lives better.
Repeat these steps daily and you will get better at it. Serve others’ happiness and you’ll probably find a deeper satisfaction in life.
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