Overcoming the Challenge of Communicating with Negative People


Whether we like it or not, we’re often forced to interact with these people on a regular basis. People who refuse to look at the bright side of things and would rather sulk in negativity, often bringing you down along with them. Whether you’re the target of a person’s negativity or happen to be the constant listener of a person’s frustrations, you will have to develop a strategy that stops you from being dragged down by all the negative energy.

1. Don’t confront people at the height of their emotions. The reason is easy: people aren’t thinking clearly with their minds. When you act on your emotions, the tendency is for things to blow over and get even worse. Instead, you should allow yourself to drain your emotions. Write down your thoughts, take a walk in the park, breathe deeply, do yoga. And once the emotions have boiled over, only then can you proceed to solving the conflict.

2. Be in touch with your inner self. Stop denying what you’re feeling, and accept them wholeheartedly. If you force yourself to be calm when you’re clearly not, you’ll only end up failing miserably. Acknowledge what you’re feeling; feel your emotions course through you.

3. Recognize other people’s feelings. You might not agree with what other people are thinking, but it won’t be as difficult agreeing with their feelings. Understand where they’re coming from, and they will feel a sense of validation.

4. Find the good intention in other people. Surely, it wouldn’t be so hard to understand the positive intentions that motivate the behavior of other people. Dig deeper than what’s on the surface, and you’ll find good intentions underneath. In fact,you might even be surprised when you understand why people do what they do.

5. Stop the urge of trying to be right all the time. Many of us have a tendency to think that we’re always right. What about letting go of this urge? This only amplifies negativity and perhaps made you even blame others one too many times, correct? Try to stop insisting that you’re right all the time, and you can sooner formulate long-term solutions to problems.

6. Do your best. Things won’t always pan out the way you hope them to, but if you follow the mentioned steps, at least you’ll have a sense of reassurance that you’ve done what you can to make things right. Isn’t that what matters in the end?