3 Ways to Help People Be Open to Change

Written by Carla Rieger on . Posted in Communication & Conflict Resolution, Creativity & Innovation, Leadership, Mindsets for Success, Success Stories, Videos

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Do you notice yourself dreading an upcoming change?

Maybe others in your life are feeling the same way?

Think of the last time you had to upgrade your software, or adhere to a new tax law, or go through a renovation. It’s normal for people to resist changes over which they have little or no choice.

 

Certain “Mindsets” Help you Handle Change Better

The latest research in neuroscience shows that installing certain mindsets can make a HUGE difference. They can improve your ability to make change work FOR you, instead of AGAINST you. The trick is to install these mindsets in your subconscious mind, so that they go on autopilot. In other words, you don’t have to WILL yourself to be that way. It’s much like you’d install software in your computer. In fact, you are installing and uninstalling mindsets all the time anyway. Becoming aware of that process can make your life better and help you serve others at more profound levels.

Here are 3 powerful  ways for shifting your mindset around challenging change.

#1 – Change Your Physicality

Strangely enough how you sit, stand and move can powerfully influence your mindset regarding change. Here’s a short, fun video clip explaining this phenomenon:

 

#2 – Pretend You’re an Expert

The second one is a question you would ask yourself or your team. It’s a question which can break you free of a limiting view of yourself and your capacities. For example, I used to be a “technophobe”. I had a fear of technological things. Tech experts handled these things for me. And then one day no tech experts were available when I was getting an error message over and over again.  I was on a deadline, and so I was highly motivated to get a solution.

I asked myself “If I were a tech expert, what would I do that I’m not doing now?” That’s when an idea came to me. I pasted the error message into my search engine and found a solution. Most tech experts would roll their eyes and think “of course!”. But I didn’t view myself that way until I asked that question. After that, I started handling my own tech issues more and more. Now I consider myself a “technofile”. So, the next time you encounter a challenge ask yourself, “If I were an expert at solving this issue, what would I do that I’m not doing now?”

 

#3 – Imagine Benefits AFTER the Change

Our brains are hardwired to hold onto what’s familiar, even if it’s causing problems. Most people are holding on to things, people, places, jobs, things, timelines, systems, software, attitudes, and roles, that no longer serve them, just to avoid the discomfort of change. I had a private coaching client who refused to adopt the online work share service. He liked working on team projects using paper. His colleagues, however, were scattered across the country.  While everyone else was chatting and sharing documents online, he was trying to fax his handwritten notes to people. As a result, he got left out of the loop often and his work suffered.

We all have areas where we are holding on inappropriately, in big ways and small. What helps a person let go is usually to inspire them with the new possibility, trigger their imagination of how life could be better on the other side of the change. It can also help to get a practical experience of the benefits of the new.

In his case, we walked through the work share system together proving to him the time saving benefits. No one had done that with him at work. Everyone else on the team was a digital native and jumped into the new system right from the start. He was a digital immigrant who needed an interpreter and a guide so he could get a hands on experience of how much better it was than a fax. He happily adopted the new system after that.

If there is someone who is resisting change, how can you help them explore benefits awaiting them BEYOND the change?

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How to Rewrite the Stories of Your Life

Written by Carla Rieger on . Posted in Build Your Expert Business, Communication & Conflict Resolution, Personal Growth, Public Speaking, Storytelling

Have you ever told a story about yourself that was disempowering? And then you changed the story and now you feel empowered in the same situation?

If so, you have activated what I like to call your “Inner Storyteller” to work FOR you instead of against you. If you did it once, you can do it again. Think of a recent experience where you felt challenged or unresolved. It could be:

  1. Taking action on an important priority
  2. Resolving a disagreement
  3. Losing weight
  4. Lowering your debt
  5. Giving a presentation

For example, I considered myself a “technically challenged” person.  That was my story about myself. When I was a kid, my dad said that girls weren’t good at technical things. I totally bought into that story and left all the technical things  to him. Fast forward to being an adult, I’m living away from home.  My computer is giving me error messages.   I cannot continue my work until my tech geek friend comes to the rescue.

Then one day, my tech geek friend moves away to another city. I am on a deadline to get a project finished, and I am getting another error message. At that point, I either need to find someone else, miss my deadline or change my story about myself. I ask myself, “what would a tech geek do in my situation?” Then a transforming idea comes to mind. I type the error message into Google and discover a forum that explains how to fix the problem.   I try it and it works.

After that, I relied on my own ingenuity more and more. Now I consider myself a bit of a “tech geek” and people come to ME for help!

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Here’s the Exercise

You might have a mean-spirited Inner Storyteller seated in the back of your mind, dictating  stories that leave you feeling negative in some way.  It happens to almost everyone.

For example, imagine you give a presentation one day and it doesn’t go so well. Nothing too serious, it just didn’t seem to “land” with your listeners.  Your Inner Storyteller starts interpreting the event.

  • You’re bad at giving presentations.
  • You went on WAY too long about those statistics.
  • Those people are just idiots.

There’s a campy TV show called “Once Upon a Time”.  It features fairytale characters from well-known stories who all end up living in a small town together in Maine called “Storybrooke”. At one point in the series, the characters discover that there is a Storyteller dictating their lives. At first they seek out that Storyteller to get him to rewrite the story in their favour. And then they realize they could just get ahold of the “quill” and rewrite the story themselves.

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You can do the same

Imagine you could get the quill from the Inner Storyteller and rewrite the story of your presentation experience.  This first requires changing the perspective through which you interpret the event.

For example, instead of looking at the event through the lens of “What went WRONG?”  you could look through the lens of “What went RIGHT?” If so, it might go something like this:

  • It went better than last time.
  • You remembered everything you wanted to say.
  • You finished the presentation on time.

Alternatively, you could look through the lens of “What could I learn from this?” and speak from the first person:

  • Next time I will rehearse more.
  • I could add some examples to those statistics.
  • I could find out the goals of my listeners and make sure I address those better next time.

Now you might have a different story about your presentation. It could be “that was a good learning experience”  instead of “that was a failure”.

Of course, this is common wisdom that you may have heard many times over. BUT, it’s one thing to know it intellectually, and it’s another thing to apply it practically to your everyday life.

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Action Item

I challenge you to try this activity right now.  It takes one minute. Pick an area of your life where you are seeing it from a negative perspective. Ask yourself “What went right?” “What could I learn?” and write out your answers in a short story form. This doesn’t mean you ignore problems, but you stop dwelling on them. You simply learn from them and move on.

If you do this enough, you will train your Inner Storyteller to work FOR you instead of against you. Enjoy!

Let me know if you try it and what happened.

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If you’d like to learn more of these kinds of tools check out The Mind Story Program: https://storycoach.online/mind-story-buy-now/

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3 Things You Need to do BEFORE Giving a Presentation

Written by Carla Rieger on . Posted in Build Your Expert Business, Communication & Conflict Resolution, Public Speaking, Speaker Marketing

If you give presentations one-to-one or to groups in order to build your business, here are 3 things to ensure your success.

The first is to craft a presentation that is a reflection of who you are. This means including your values and your mission. Doing this can save you years of frustration. People follow people with a mission, rather than someone “just doing their business for the money.” If you look at the top 20 TED talks almost all of them share a mission to make a difference in the world. For example, Sir Ken Robinson’s mission is to make creativity as important as literacy. Amy Cuddy’s mission is to empower people through enhancing their body language. Get clarity on your mission and express it when you present. It’s a game changer. You will magnetize more ideal fans, customers, supporters and team members. If you’re vague, then people don’t know how to relate to you or refer you.

The second is to match the mission of your business to a hungry community of prospects. If you try to be all things to all people, you will serve no one. Think of a specific demographic that could benefit from your offerings: products, services or business opportunity. Especially if you are just starting out you’ll get far more traction if you focus. For example, the words you use in a presentation designed for new mothers won’t be nearly as effective as a presentation for retired teachers. It takes lots of editing to get your presentation just right, so pick a niche, a community, a demographic that you can really relate to [hint: start with people like you].

Thirdly, focus on your strengths and not your weaknesses. For example, many introverts think they need to be extroverted to be a good public speaker or presenter. The truth is, some of the best presenters in the world, such as Obama, Eckhart Tolle, and Brene Brown, are all introverts. Also, some people are quirky and unusual. Instead of trying to hide your quirkiness, highlight it. People will remember you more and appreciate the authenticity. An extreme example of this is the late David Bowie, who took a risk to be entirely different and it paid off handsomely.

The trick to being a great presenter is to be true to your self.

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Try the D.A.N.C.E. Personality Style Quiz to find out your default style when giving presentations. Are you a Demonstrator, Assertor, Narrator, Contemplator or Expert? Once you do the quiz, you’ll get your score and can read about the 5 styles. That way you’ll know how to  build on your strengths rather than get tripped up by your weaknesses:

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Can You Tell a Great Story? Take the Quiz

Written by Carla Rieger on . Posted in Build Your Expert Business, Communication & Conflict Resolution, Creativity & Innovation, Employee Engagement & Team Building, Leadership, Public Speaking, Storytelling, Success Stories, Videos

As bestselling author, Daniel Pink, says “Storytellers rule the future”. If you are a manager, supervisor, salesperson, business owner or motivator of any kind, it can make all the difference. Why? Because stories:

• persuade people much better than concepts (Harvard Business Review)
• build empathy for your point of view instead of judgment (The Journal of Evolution & Technology)
• switch people’s brains on instead of bore them (The New York Times)

Yet many of my clients tell me they don’t know where to start. Let’s start with finding out where you are now. Take the Quiz. Use a piece of paper or download and print this 1 page quiz. Then follow along with the video:

1 Page Quiz (PDF) https://s3.amazonaws.com/Storytelling/Blog-Quiz-Storytelling+in+Business.pdf

Get the Storytelling in Business Program and for step-by-step support, templates and demos that make you a mastery storyteller. http://carlarieger.com/store/speakers-programs/storytelling-in-business-program/

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