How’s Your Laugh Life?

Written by Carla Rieger on . Posted in Fun, Humor, laughter, Mindsets for Success, Personal Growth, Stress

When was the last time you had some really great…laughter? Plato once said, Life was meant to be lived as play.  Yet, many people act as if life was meant to be lived as work. No pain, no gain. Life is a struggle.

Was Life Meant to Be Lived as ONLY Work?

Many people believe that laughing and being playful are a waste of time. Others only have fun in rebellion to having worked so hard all week, Thank God It’s Friday! And even in their enjoyment there is an underlying feeling of guilt.

Can Fun at Work INCREASE Productivity?

Actually, marrying work with play does improve productivity. It helps in many other areas, too.  It can lower tension and unite colleagues in stressful times. A recent Loma Linda University study discovered that after participants laughed their way through a 20-minute humorous video, learning ability improved by 40 percent, and the stress hormone, cortisol, lowered by 45 percent.

The Dangers of a Hard-Driving Workplace

Hard-driving workplaces actually increase the likelihood of mistakes, disengagement and burnout. In different studies conducted by Gallup and the Queen’s School of Business, disengaged workers had 49 percent more accidents and 37 percent higher absenteeism. Moreover, health care costs at high-stress companies are 46 percent higher.

Laughter and Your Health?

Many people are busy taking supplements, rushing to the gym and eating balanced meals. Yet, often having a bit of fun and enjoyment is far better for your whole immune system. In the last 30 years, science has proven that laughter IS the best medicine.  Norman Cousins started the whole trend with his book, Anatomy of an Illness, He contracted a terminal illness and was told he had only 6 months to live, His chance of recovery was one in 500. He knew in his heart that all the years he spent worrying, getting irritated, and denying himself fun had caused the dis-ease, the imbalance. He was in tremendous pain, so much so that he could not sleep, He noticed that for every 5 minutes of laughter, he had two hours pain free, He watched hours of comedy movies, read humorous books, had friends tell him funny stories. He had a complete remission and went on to live another happy, healthy, and productive 20 years, He credits visualizations, the love of his family, and laughter for his recovery. Laughter, therefore, can help us regain balance in an all-work-no-play kind of world.

S.T.R.E.S.S.

According to comedian, Karen Kolberg, STRESS is an acronym for 

  • Staying
  • Tense
  • Regularly
  • Even though you
  • See that it’s
  • Stupid

Regular stress does more to undermine your health than skipping the gym or eating ice cream. On the other hand, fun helps the immune system, cures depression, revitalizes the body, mind and spirit, and has no unpleasant side effects. Being playful stimulates your creative mind, changes your perspective, enhances rapport with others, and makes you more attractive to other people! Laughing and playing is organic, low-fat, with no pesticides, no preservatives, no artificial ingredients and is 100 percent wholesome. It takes no special training. In fact, babies can laugh within the first few weeks of life. It is free, You don’t need to go to a specialist to get laughter treatment. And, contrary to popular thinking, almost anyone can create opportunities to laugh all during the day, alone or with others. We all deserve the right to have more joy in our lives. If you’d like more information on this topic, see below. 

 

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The Power of Laughter: Managing Change with a Sense of Humor

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Discover:

     * Your humor personality style

     * How to marry work and play

     * Mistakes to avoid when using fun at work

     * and much more!

 

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Use Humor to Avoid a Conflict

Written by Carla Rieger on . Posted in Communication & Conflict Resolution, Fun, Humor, laughter, Making a Difference, Mindsets for Success, Personal Growth, Storytelling

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Before I criticize someone, I walk a mile in their moccasins. That way, if they get mad, they’re a mile away and barefoot.  

If you use humor in the right way at the right time – you CAN diffuse a conflict. Everyday life is full of great opportunities to disarm negativity, ease a tense situation, and help people find a win-win solution more quickly…using a bit of light-heartedness.

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There are 3 things you need to have in place:

  1. The intention to use humor to clear negativity [not reinforce it]
  2. A playful response that pokes fun at the situation [rather than people]
  3. An adventurous spirit and a willingness to learn as you go

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Below are some examples…

Paint Department

I client of mine was working at a major home improvement store in the paint department.  When customers have complaints, paint is the last place you want to be, since they usually discover a problem after they have already spread it on their wall.  And special colors are not accepted for return.  One customer got so upset at the man that he said, “You can take this paint and shove it up your ass!”  The man responded, “I’m sorry sir, you’re the third person to say that today so I’m all full of paint, but I’ll be open for more tomorrow.”  The customer laughed and they were able to move on. (Stevie Ray)

Time Deadline

Our manager was pushing the IT technician to fix a huge computer breakdown in under half a day.  The technician was getting frustrated at the unreasonable request, but rather than push back with resistance, he said, “Actually, I only need two hours.  The other two I’ll be using to cure world hunger.”  They both laughed and the manager mellowed out. (Linda Johnson)

Smaller Budget

A client kept returning our budget proposal saying it needed to be smaller.  No matter how much trimming we did, the client kept pushing for “Smaller, smaller!”  I finally took the proposal to a copier and had it reduced to two inches in size.  I sent it to the client and said, “This is about as small as I can make it.  Tell me what you think.” He called me saying it got a huge laugh in his office and that he would now accept the proposal as soon as he could find his magnifying glass. (Frank Friedman)

Super Size Urn

A funeral director was helping a grieving widow choose an urn for her husband’s ashes. Her husband was a man who enjoyed the finer things in life; he had a hearty build; a rotund, Santa-like exterior. The funeral director was trying to find a diplomatic way to tell her that the urn size should be extra-large. When she inquired as to the selection available, he simply said small, medium, large and Super Size. She looked up and there was a brief pause. Not knowing what to do, he said….”and today Super Size is only fifty cents more”.  She replied sadly, “Wilbur always went for Super Size.” There was another pause – and then they both laughed. She later told him that little encounter really helped her release the stress of the situation. (Vanessa Miller)

Cuban Missile Crisis

This is a true story from the Cuban Missile Crisis in the 1960s. There were American and Soviet delegates meeting to discuss this very intense situation. Here’s a clip from one of Carla Rieger’s speaking engagements describing the incident.

 

 

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Planning Your Presentation – How to Go from Idea to Finished Presentation Quickly and Easily

Written by Carla Rieger on . Posted in Build Your Expert Business, Leadership, Network Marketing, Public Speaking, Videos

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In this video, you’ll discover a simple step-by-step process that takes you from vague ideas to a final presentation in a short period of time.

It’s very helpful if have to get ready for an upcoming:

* webinar or teleseminar
* podcast or video
* Facebook Live
* live workshop or speaking engagement
* one-to-one business presentation

Or, if you’d like to upgrade an existing presentation.

 

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Transform Anxiety Into Confidence – 3 Ways to Switch Your Brain On

Written by Carla Rieger on . Posted in Mindsets for Success, Personal Growth, Public Speaking, Stress, Videos

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* Do  you ever feel TOO nervous in situations like public speaking, interviews or networking events?

* What is actually taking place in the brain of a person when they experience this fear?

* How can a person transform that kind of fear within minutes?

If you have ever asked yourself those questions then you are in the right place. Julie Anderson interviews Carla Rieger–an expert in helping people to break through their fears in high pressure situations.

Through her business The Artistry of Change Training and Consulting Inc. they focus on building presentation and communication skills for visionary leaders and business owners.

In this interview, she will answer these questions:

* In what kinds of high pressure situations can you use these tools?

* What is the secret to being able to speak with confidence in a high pressure situation?

* What is going on in a person’s brain when they are afraid of public speaking?

* What is an example of something a person can do to shift how their brain is reacting in real time?

… much more.

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Mind Story: A 3 Step Process to Get Unstuck

Written by Carla Rieger on . Posted in Mindsets for Success, Personal Growth, Success Stories

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Last year, I was traveling and speaking a lot. At one point, I got into a panic about missing my flight. I’m getting off one flight and realize I only have 56 minutes to get to my next flight. I discover I have to leave security. Exit the terminal. Take a bus to the next terminal. Go through security again to my gate. I get to security and the line is a mile long. My flight is leaving in 18 minutes.

I start to panic. Even if I jump to the front of the line, there’s still a 15 minute walk AFTER I get through security. Of course when you panic your brain capacity goes down, and you tend to catastrophize. I start envisioning missing my flight and therefore missing my speaking engagement and all the negative consequences of that reality. Then I took a deep breath which, I know, can shift brain chemistry. I remembered about this Mind Story process to get “unstuck”.

It’s 3 simple steps:

#1 – NEGATIVE MINDSET. I identified the negative mindset “I am worried I won’t make my flight”.

#2 – POSITIVE MINDSET. I chose an opposite mindset “I have chosen to be confident that I can make my flight.”

#3 – MIND STORY. I remember a time I was in a similar situation and DID make my flight. It was 11 years earlier and I relived exactly what happened. I asked an airline rep to fast track me the whole way there. I doubted this would work again since I couldn’t see an airline rep anywhere in sight. I left my place in the line and told a security agent about my plight. He whipped me through the priority lane. Then they escorted me to an airline rep standing on the other side of security. She hailed down an airport golf cart. While I was speeding my way to the gate, she contacted the gate agent who was just closing the door. They held it open five more minutes. I arrived just in time for my flight.

Have you ever noticed that people often think they can’t solve a problem because of an external circumstance, when it’s actually their mindset? By remembering a time I was in a similar situation before, it helped me solve the situation again. You may be thinking, that’s just common sense.  However, you’d be surprised at how often people lose their common sense when they are letting a negative mindset such as worry, overwhelm or confusion dictate their thinking.

You can use this 3 step Mind Story process on yourself, or with others. You can use it to solve a simple situation like the story above or a more complex situation like how to solve a cash flow crisis or how to make a life changing decision.

Here’s how you’d use it to help someone else. I was working with a client who was disappointed because he’d pitched himself as a consultant to a huge company and lost to a  competitor. Here’s how I worked with him.

Step #1 – NEGATIVE MINDSET: I had him state his negative mindset in this way “I am + negative mindset + the situation”. For example, “I am disappointed about losing the deal”.

Step #2 – POSITIVE MINDSET: Then, I had him state the opposite, positive mindset that would help him find a better solution, “I have chosen to be + positive mindset + situation resolving”. He said, “I have chosen to be confident that I can learn from the situation and bounce back.”

This seemed strange at first to him, because he wasn’t feeling confident. However, as the old saying goes “You cannot solve a problem with the same mindset that created it.” The trick here is to help a person manufacture the new mindset, attitude, feeling, perception, by stating it in this way. By doing that, you help them create a magnet from the negative to the positive. It’s much like a circuit needs both negative and positive polarities to create electricity. The meeting of the two opposites then creates the spark for a solution.

Step #3 – TELL A MIND STORY: I asked him to tell me a story about a time he overcame a similar situation in the past. This is called a “Mind Story”. It’s a story that opens up new possibilities in the conscious AND subconscious mind of the listener. I asked him to include a beginning, middle and end. The beginning is what happened before he created a solution. The middle is what he did to create the solution. And the end is what it looked like after he implemented the solution. For example, he said:

Last year I almost got the TCU deal and lost to a different competitor. I had worked days on that proposal. I’d done 3 meetings. I was short-listed, and very hopeful. When I lost the deal I lost my enthusiasm. I got sick. I wanted to quit being a consultant. Then a friend told me about another company looking for a consultant like me and the deadline for the proposal was 2 days away. I shrugged off my disappointment and got the proposal done on time and landed the deal.

After he told me the story I asked him, “So, what would you do in this situation?”

He said, “Clearly I think it would work for me to just going on another proposal, rather than wallow in regret. It’s a numbers game.”

Off he went. Disappointment gone. Back in the saddle.

Does it always work quickly like that? No. But if it doesn’t work right away, chances are it will later. Sometimes you have to do it a few times, in more complex ways. These are just simple examples, using a short version of the Mind Story tools, for the sake of brevity. Stories bypass the judgmental mind and can open up a conversation between your subconscious and conscious mind. That way you are less likely to be stopped by limiting beliefs that can keep you stuck.

Enjoy and let me know if you try it

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